Yeah I agree, face to face. If you get something in the face, who cares. At least she can't say you didn't have any balls about doing it and you did it in a decent way. Doesn't make you a pr!ck only shows you have some decency and care about her in a way still. (not the way you used to)
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techead
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Sensorei
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Just get on with the break up and get over with it. This thread isn't helping anymore. The more you think about it, the harder it is going to be.
How long were you guys together? Makes quite a difference in how you break it to her imo.
How long were you guys together? Makes quite a difference in how you break it to her imo.
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Picard
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Why don't you just drift away from her. Be an ******* and don't call her, skip the visits, tell her you have a headache, forget her birthday ... It's going to take a few weeks but at least the she'll start to realize what's up. And if you do it just right - she might just break up with you. And you got what you want anyway.
techead
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only 2 months mate, but I like to show respect regardless of how long
How did you do it? How did she take it?
RazedInBlack
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I expect our advice worked out for the best!
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The kindest thing you an do is give her a reason to hate you.
Begin by applying alcohol, discarding any notions of moderation, then try (at the very least) to bone her sister/bff/mum/etc.
This will catapault her past hurt/self pity/bargaining/etc. straight to anger.
She'll get over you faster and use this as an excuse to abuse the trust of some poor schmuck (who should know better than to be the rebound dick anyway) to get back not only her groove but her confidence and power too. This will most likely remind you of what you liked about her to begin with and leave you pining for what you had whilst simultaneously realising that your bridges are burned.
You will want to apply alcohol at this stage again... liberally.
With the help of alcohol you will most likely see this as justification for several one night stands resulting in a string of women who feel used (and who may end up with old rebound dick - that would be poetic right?) and a long queue at the clinic for you - alcohol is useful at this stage.
Thankfully you can do this all on autopilot (thus limiting the actual impact of the drama... for now) through the aforementioned liberal use of alcohol so be particularly fastidious in terms of this practice.
There will be moments of shame (usually in the bathroom mirror come morning) these can be obliterated with (I see you nodding and mouthing the word..) alcohol - so ensure a steady flow of it for the next few weeks.
Begin by applying alcohol, discarding any notions of moderation, then try (at the very least) to bone her sister/bff/mum/etc.
This will catapault her past hurt/self pity/bargaining/etc. straight to anger.
She'll get over you faster and use this as an excuse to abuse the trust of some poor schmuck (who should know better than to be the rebound dick anyway) to get back not only her groove but her confidence and power too. This will most likely remind you of what you liked about her to begin with and leave you pining for what you had whilst simultaneously realising that your bridges are burned.
You will want to apply alcohol at this stage again... liberally.
With the help of alcohol you will most likely see this as justification for several one night stands resulting in a string of women who feel used (and who may end up with old rebound dick - that would be poetic right?) and a long queue at the clinic for you - alcohol is useful at this stage.
Thankfully you can do this all on autopilot (thus limiting the actual impact of the drama... for now) through the aforementioned liberal use of alcohol so be particularly fastidious in terms of this practice.
There will be moments of shame (usually in the bathroom mirror come morning) these can be obliterated with (I see you nodding and mouthing the word..) alcohol - so ensure a steady flow of it for the next few weeks.
techead
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I decided in person was the best option... and I didnt beat around the bush, I just came out with it!
She took it well, and didnt go crazy on me (thats happened before omg!)
another chapter closed
seventhson
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You people dump woman like socks. I wish I could get at least one
You people dump woman like socks. I wish I could get at least one
You need to chase them first
that's OK - because THEN you know you made the right choice and won't be stuck with a crazyperson for the rest of your life
What I can't handle is the crying - that makes one regret it / feel bad / ashamed / confused / etc...
techead
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Excellent advice! An indication (via SMS or email) of what an upcoming face-to-face meeting is about – so she doesn’t think it’s a ‘proposal’ or that you are an insensitive, cowardly wimp. She has control. She has time to get over-it in privacy and compose herself and think of suitably cutting remarks at your perfidy in toying with her affections. Take any lumps dished-out. She is the wounded party.
Most people have a ‘self-image’. This is important to retain and if you don’t mess-up in an unpleasant situation, you will have no ‘cringe’ moments when reviewing past behaviour. Once your ex is over the trauma, she will have to reluctantly concede that you behaved honourably in the circumstances. Don’t be sucked-in to further intercourse out of pity (batting eyelashes & weeping prettily). If you do, you are doomed. Make a clean break.
Ou grote
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I decided in person was the best option... and I didnt beat around the bush, I just came out with it!
She took it well, and didnt go crazy on me (thats happened before omg!)
another chapter closed
So what you're trying to say is that she dumped your sorry ass?
techead
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wtf u on about... didnt you read the thread!!! lol
Pitbull
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Lol, I can clearly see in this thread who where the people being dropped in relationships as it's pretty clear by the advice you guys gave 
Best way to part ways...... Part ways. Start visiting less, call less and always have excuses if she wants to go do something. That way she gets pissed and will end up either having a heart to heart with you or kick your arse to the curb. If she has a heart to heart with you, tell her you are feeling boxed in and it feels as if she is forcing you into something you are not 100% ready for. She will be the one to ask you if you still want to be with her then. This is where you say that you think it's prob best to call it off. But the trick is to get under her skin by avoiding her and making visits as short as possible.
She then get's used to the idea of that you are drifting appart and that will prevent her wrath from stirking you if you drop a bomb on her.
If you have another woman on the side, start seeing her more and your current GF less. HOWEVER***** Do not let her find out there is someone else before you have broken up. If you want to be WTFPWNED by a woman and end up haveing stitches, casts and things then pls let her catch you. It's a process breaking up just like falling in love is a process.
Remember, you want out. It's not important who breaks up with who first. Just as long as it happens.....
Absence does not make the heart grow fonder
Best way to part ways...... Part ways. Start visiting less, call less and always have excuses if she wants to go do something. That way she gets pissed and will end up either having a heart to heart with you or kick your arse to the curb. If she has a heart to heart with you, tell her you are feeling boxed in and it feels as if she is forcing you into something you are not 100% ready for. She will be the one to ask you if you still want to be with her then. This is where you say that you think it's prob best to call it off. But the trick is to get under her skin by avoiding her and making visits as short as possible.
She then get's used to the idea of that you are drifting appart and that will prevent her wrath from stirking you if you drop a bomb on her.
If you have another woman on the side, start seeing her more and your current GF less. HOWEVER***** Do not let her find out there is someone else before you have broken up. If you want to be WTFPWNED by a woman and end up haveing stitches, casts and things then pls let her catch you. It's a process breaking up just like falling in love is a process.
Remember, you want out. It's not important who breaks up with who first. Just as long as it happens.....
Absence does not make the heart grow fonder
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA