time for a break up

Linoman said:
Be a man, tell her in private. Face to face don't be a wimp and use technology. Just go see her and sit her down and be honest with her.
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I think that's like totally the best way to do it, man up and tell her.
Don't act like a laaitie and break up over the phonel etc.

Is jy n man of laaitie?
 
Cheri_N said:
Whatever you do, do not use the “it is not you, it is me” phrase or the “we can still be friends” phrase. Let her decide if she still wants to be friends.

And don’t do it in a public place. Send her an email explaining the break up and follow it up with coffee somewhere private where you can chat about it. She’ll know what to expect and the initial shock should have worn off by then.
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-LiLiTh- said:
+1

I think that's like totally the best way to do it, man up and tell her.
Don't act like a laaitie and break up over the phonel etc.

Is jy n man of laaitie?
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Were you chewing bubblegum while posting that too?

But back on topic. Stop overthinking it and just do it.
 
Keeper said:
actually, i'm not so sure anymore - some holes are starting to appear in this idea

- Python has a point
- If she doesn't know you are intending on seeing her afterwards, she will think you are breaking up with her over an e-mail - thats even worse than a phone call!
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Not if you say something like this.

Hi X

Lately I have been feeling x and x. I know that it may come as a surprise to you but I x and x. So I think that it is better if we end the relationship now while we can part amicably. I understand that you are probably angry and confused now so can we please meet up for coffee tonight to discuss this in person as I really want us to have closure on our relationship.

It has worked for me in the past and I have stayed friends 99% of my exes or on friendly terms with them.
 
Cheri_N said:
Not if you say something like this.

Hi X

Lately I have been feeling x and x. I know that it may come as a surprise to you but I x and x. So I think that it is better if we end the relationship now while we can part amicably. I understand that you are probably angry and confused now so can we please meet up for coffee tonight to discuss this in person as I really want us to have closure on our relationship.

It has worked for me in the past and I have stayed friends 99% of my exes or on friendly terms with them.
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Situation: female gets pissed off and doesn't wanna meet up for coffee.

End result: You are an *******.

chances are it will end like this!
 
Cheri_N said:
Not if you say something like this.

Hi X

Lately I have been feeling x and x. I know that it may come as a surprise to you but I x and x. So I think that it is better if we end the relationship now while we can part amicably. I understand that you are probably angry and confused now so can we please meet up for coffee tonight to discuss this in person as I really want us to have closure on our relationship.

It has worked for me in the past and I have stayed friends 99% of my exes or on friendly terms with them.
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Trust me it is a terrible way to do it, it might be easier for the person doing the breakup. However for the person being dumped it truly and utterly sucks. I would have more respect if someone had the guts to say it to my face not be a coward and do it over an email.
 
Lilith is right. There is one way to break up and that is face-to-face. You owe her at least that much.
 
But you see her face to face to discuss after the initial blow. You don't just ignore her.

To me it is better than "We need to chat". Less nerve wrecking.

But I suppose what works for the one, doesn't work for the other.
 
Face to face or you are an *******. I went the ******* route the first few times but face to face always feels better afterwards. No regrets that way.
 
Is nobody gona ask him why he wants to break up? Why do you want to break up with her, are things completely beyond repair?
 
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