What would you have done ?

[Mike Hoxbig]

The only advantage I see in this is that after the first glass, the rest will have less pee in it.

Just order it with no glass, i.e. drink from a straw out the can.

He has no reason to suspect that you're acting against him anyway, you're just ordering stuff as you normally would. And your gf wouldn't suspect that you're being mean to him. By the time you leave the douche with a 2% tip, it's too late for him to do anything.

 

[porn$tar]

If he started masturbating on the table or something, I could understand a reaction...

What's a guy to do when they run out of salad dressing?

 

[Eyenstyn]

What's up with waiters these days? They try to steal girlfriends and get a tip. This happened to me once, just be glad your girlfriend didn't flirt back.

 

[Lycanthrope]

I'm sorry, there's nothing wrong with telling a guy she's with you when a guy hits on her in front of you. It's a matter of self-respect. There is nothing Jerry Springer about it.

If a guy acts boorish and doesn't take a hint then the best thing to do is walk away; not sink to their level.

If a guy flirts with your girl and she doesn't tell him to **** off, do you really think the problem is with the guy hitting on your girl, or with your relationship?

If your reaction is fisticuffs and measuring your testosterone against each other then er... yeah, Jerry Springer is exactly what it boils down to.

If you are comfortable in your relationship, have trust, commitment and all those other lovely things, then I see zero reason to feel intimidated, jealous, upset or any other such feelings. Take it as a compliment, walk away and get over it.

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

What's up with waiters these days? They try to steal girlfriends and get a tip. This happened to me once, just be glad your girlfriend didn't flirt back.

As with any awkward social situation, you need to find a way to screw them over without them realising it until it's too late. Telling him to back off isn't the answer, and will most likely result in you being served with special kinds of dishes, the ingredients of which are not listed on the menu. And, depending on your gf, might result in you looking worse.

 

[I.am.Sam]

What's up with waiters these days? They try to steal girlfriends and get a tip. This happened to me once, just be glad your girlfriend didn't flirt back.

well like how we would flirt at our work or look at woman thats they day job

 

[I.am.Sam]

As with any awkward social situation, you need to find a way to screw them over without them realising it until it's too late. Telling him to back off isn't the answer, and will most likely result in you being served with special kinds of dishes, the ingredients of which are not listed on the menu. And, depending on your gf, might result in you looking worse.

why fight over someone who smiled at your gf ...the problem would be if he comes to talk and she talks back with him while you sitting there

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

why fight over someone who smiled at your gf ...the problem would be if he comes to talk and she talks back with him while you sitting there

Yeah but I never said that one should take action against a smile, or even idle chatter

And if your gf entertains the flirting by talking back, then I'm afraid that the problem isn't with the waiter.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Yeah but I never said that one should take action against a smile, or even idle chatter

And if your gf entertains the flirting by talking back, then I'm afraid that the problem isn't with the waiter.

thats exactly where the problem lies ....cos if she can do it infront of you...well i feel sorry for whats behind your back being done

 

[Peder]

I was a waiter once and some people pissed me off real bad but not for one moment did i think of sabotaging their food. Who does that?

 

[Pooky]

I was a waiter once and some people pissed me off real bad but not for one moment did i think of sabotaging their food. Who does that?

Yeah I would never do that. Besides they don't care case they don't know.

 

[killadoob]

Yeah but I never said that one should take action against a smile, or even idle chatter

And if your gf entertains the flirting by talking back, then I'm afraid that the problem isn't with the waiter.

Indeed, wow i never knew smiling at someone was so bad, i smile so much i think i better watch myself incase some klipdrift fueled fool thinks my smiling is flirting .

 

[BinaryJack]

So, I never post these kind of questions, but just looking for advice.

Today me and my girlfriend went to visit some of her friends in Potchefstroom and before we drove home, we decided to stop at Spur and we each ordered something to drink. While we were sitting at the table one of the waiters walked by and smiled at her. We both laughed at the guy and then later on he walked past again and smiled at her she ignored it I felt a bit uneasy, but nothing I could really do about it or so I thought.

After that we drove back to JHB and her sister came over with her boyfriend. We told them about the waiter and immediately the sister's boyfriend asked me what did I do when the waiter smiled at my girlfriend. We both said we just laughed about it. The boyfriend then told me that he would not have laughed about it and he would have done something about it. After he said that, I feel kind of pissed off at myself for not doing something about the waiter.

So, what would you have done or could I have done ?

LOL!
Your reaction was perfectly fine...what did you want to do about it?
Grab him by the balls and gut him while grinning at your girlfriend and screaming in his face "Smile now mother****er, smile now!!!"

 

[PsyWulf]

What would you have done ?

Nothing,except tell the other BF to stop being such an insecure baby

 

[Nick333]

If a guy acts boorish and doesn't take a hint then the best thing to do is walk away; not sink to their level.

If a guy flirts with your girl and she doesn't tell him to **** off, do you really think the problem is with the guy hitting on your girl, or with your relationship?

If your reaction is fisticuffs and measuring your testosterone against each other then er... yeah, Jerry Springer is exactly what it boils down to.

If you are comfortable in your relationship, have trust, commitment and all those other lovely things, then I see zero reason to feel intimidated, jealous, upset or any other such feelings. Take it as a compliment, walk away and get over it.

Ja, sorry that's just being naive. Also I'm not sure where the mention of fisticuffs and testosterone is coming from. If you're in a situation where some guy is being friendly with your gf and excluding you his intentions are obvious and you're well with in your rights to politely tell him he's not welcome. It's not always that easy for a women to shut the guy down in a situation like that.
It's not even a question of jealousy. It's disrespectful for a guy to do something like that which is why I would assume it's not the sort of thing any of us would do. So, really it's less to do with being possessive than asserting yourself in a situation where you're being disrespected. You'd do similar in any other situation you were being treated with disrespect so why not in this situation? Unless you were scared of getting punched in the face.

 

[Lycanthrope]

Ja, sorry that's just being naive. Also I'm not sure where the mention of fisticuffs and testosterone is coming from

Unless you were scared of getting punched in the face.

Kinda just answered your own question there.

Let's look at some of the factors in play here:
1) It isn't always obvious that a guy and a girl are "together" unless they're sucking face 24/7 in public, they could just be friends.
2) If you have no insecurities, why would any guy hitting on your girlfriend upset you? Again, take it as a compliment.
3) If a guy forces the issue, report him to his superiors and/or get up and go. Where does this primitive need to protect your territory come into play?
4) It's also natural for people to be more inclined to smile/look at the less-threatening/boorish/arrogant individual in a group of people.

Where does "disrespect" come into it? You are the one who is upset, who is taking it to extremes and imagining the worst and feeling threatened. You are not "impressing" anyone by acting pig-headed, possessive and defensive. The only thing disrespectful is when you feel your dick's territory is being compromised by another man and can't trust or expect your girlfriend to fight her own battles.

I love this idea of "disrespect." I'm sorry, but I just keep playing Jerry Springer through my head with sentences such as, "You're disrespektin' me, yo!" being thrown about by people who can't even comprehend the meaning of the word and affiliate it with "Hurting my feelings."

TL;DR: THERE IS NO BATTLE TO BE FOUGHT, THERE IS NO NEED TO PROVE YOUR MANHOOD, THERE IS NOTHING TO BE UPSET ABOUT.

If something makes you or her feel uncomfortable, report it to their superiors and if it's really that bad, go to another restaurant. Why the need to take something so personally is beyond me. Maybe you're used to dating ugly chicks that never get so much as a second look from another man? I don't get it. To me this is just a ridiculous way to feel/act/behave that is way too obsessive, controlling, possessive and unhealthy regardless of how you look at it.

 

[Nick333]

Kinda just answered your own question there.

Let's look at some of the factors in play here:
1) It isn't always obvious that a guy and a girl are "together" unless they're sucking face 24/7 in public, they could just be friends.
2) If you have no insecurities, why would any guy hitting on your girlfriend upset you? Again, take it as a compliment.
3) If a guy forces the issue, report him to his superiors and/or get up and go. Where does this primitive need to protect your territory come into play?
4) It's also natural for people to be more inclined to smile/look at the less-threatening/boorish/arrogant individual in a group of people.

Where does "disrespect" come into it? You are the one who is upset, who is taking it to extremes and imagining the worst and feeling threatened. You are not "impressing" anyone by acting pig-headed, possessive and defensive. The only thing disrespectful is when you feel your dick's territory is being compromised by another man and can't trust or expect your girlfriend to fight her own battles.

I love this idea of "disrespect." I'm sorry, but I just keep playing Jerry Springer through my head with sentences such as, "You're disrespektin' me, yo!" being thrown about by people who can't even comprehend the meaning of the word and affiliate it with "Hurting my feelings."

TL;DR: THERE IS NO BATTLE TO BE FOUGHT, THERE IS NO NEED TO PROVE YOUR MANHOOD, THERE IS NOTHING TO BE UPSET ABOUT.

If something makes you or her feel uncomfortable, report it to their superiors and if it's really that bad, go to another restaurant. Why the need to take something so personally is beyond me. Maybe you're used to dating ugly chicks that never get so much as a second look from another man? I don't get it. To me this is just a ridiculous way to feel/act/behave that is way too obsessive, controlling, possessive and unhealthy regardless of how you look at it.

**** me. You do realise we are no longer discussing waiters specifically? If not, why the fcck are you participating in my and xrapidxs little side debate in the first place.

For straight people here's how it works: If you see a guy and a girl together you assume they are a couple until further notice. If you absolutely have to talk to the girl, approach the couple as a group and subtly try to find out if the relationship is romantic or not. Anything else is disrespectful towards the other guy. If you disobey these rules you get told politely to back off by the bf if it is indeed her bf. If the bf doesn't have enough self-respect to tell you to back off his gf now thinks he's a *****.

You guys going on about jealousy and insecurity... really I think it's just plain physical cowardice.

 

[xrapidx]

Like I said - Jerry Jerry Jerry!!!!

Physical cowardice? Dude - I'm 115kg, 1.87m - and not all of it is fat, my waist is 36"... one thing I don't fear is being hit , in fact - I'd let someone hit me just so I can ruin their future in court.

I trust my fiance, she knows exactly how to handle flirts - and doesn't need me to whip out my dick and show how big it is.I actually don't think someone has flirted with her in front of me, but it wouldn't bother me if they did - I'd only step in if the guy doesn't get the message when she gives bat

 

[Lycanthrope]

**** me. You do realise we are no longer discussing waiters specifically? If not, why the fcck are you participating in my and xrapidxs little side debate in the first place.

Because it doesn't MATTER who does it, WHAT the profession of the person is or ANYTHING else, the only thing that matters is YOUR INSECURITY ABOUT THEM.

For straight people here's how it works: If you see a guy and a girl together you assume they are a couple until further notice. If you absolutely have to talk to the girl, approach the couple as a group and subtly try to find out if the relationship is romantic or not. Anything else is disrespectful towards the other guy. If you disobey these rules you get told politely to back off by the bf if it is indeed her bf. If the bf doesn't have enough self-respect to tell you to back off his gf now thinks he's a *****.

Yeah, for the rest of the world, if you see a guy and a girl together they could be siblings, lovers, friends, colleagues, cousins, etc. At which point did they automatically enter a relationship? Where did sexual orientation even become a factor in this?

Er... as for these "rules" of yours, does clubbing your potential mate in the head and dragging her off to your cave come into play at any stage? Because that's exactly what it sounds like.

You guys going on about jealousy and insecurity... really I think it's just plain physical cowardice.

Physical cowardice? So basically you punch anyone who upsets you in whatever way? And you ask me where "testosterone" or "fisticuffs" comes into it? You've just proven my point. It's got nothing to do with anything involving your higher faculties and rests solely on your ego.

Like I said - Jerry Jerry Jerry!!!!

Physical cowardice? Dude - I'm 115kg, 1.87m - and not all of it is fat, my waist is 36"... one thing I don't fear is being hit , in fact - I'd let someone hit me just so I can ruin their future in court.

I trust my fiance, she knows exactly how to handle flirts - and doesn't need me to whip out my dick and show how big it is.I actually don't think someone has flirted with her in front of me, but it wouldn't bother me if they did - I'd only step in if the guy doesn't get the message when she gives bat

Well-****ing-said!

 

[Nicodeamus]

Jeez I would be glad if someone smiled at my girlfriend, it only shows that I have something which they don't, if you did something you would have looked like a real jealous p03s.