Seriously, Lycanthrope have you lost your mind. When have I ever suggested punching someone? This entire argument has been very weird for me. You don't seem to have read a thing I've posted even when you've quoted me. Where have I suggested violence or even aggression as appropriate? At most I've suggested telling someone to go away politely.
It's like debating with a schizo. You're not even in the same ball park. You're having a Pavlovian response here. I suggest assertiveness and you read violence and testosterone.
Very fccking strange.
*sigh*
At most I've suggested telling someone to go away politely.
JYou'd do similar in any other situation you were being treated with disrespect so why not in this situation? Unless you were scared of getting punched in the face.
You guys going on about jealousy and insecurity... really I think it's just plain physical cowardice.
You have repeatedly brought physical hostility into this, mentioned that "in any other situation" you would react in the same way; to me, that implies that you're
looking for a fight and you're pretty certain that it would boil down to a physical confrontation.
Maybe I've misunderstood your stance somewhere along the line but your stance most certainly doesn't seem like the "bigger man" approach and reeks of having something to prove (read: compensate for). If I have misunderstood then I'm sorry. However, you'll understand that from my perspective you're not exactly short on ambiguity (schitzo) either.
Yes, clearly they could be any of those, but it would be wise not to assume she is not his gf. Hence approaching them as a unit rather than risking dissing the dude if he is her bf. And even if he isn't why diss him anyway? Why wouldn't you approach a group as a group? This is plain, simple social awareness. For some strange reason you're actually arguing for douche bags that hit on guys gfs in front of them. Knee jerk much?
I agree, it's better to ask and be certain. However, the guy was hardly openly flirting with her. I mean this thread is about a waiter
smiling at someone's girlfriend? I mean
wow. Doesn't that tell you all you need to know about how ridiculous this is in the
first place?
You and I evidently flow in different social circles.
Also, I'm not arguing "for douche bags that hit on guys' girlfriends in front of them" I'm arguing that this is something that has been taken out of proportion and most "men" in this thread are flexing their muscles to prove their manhood because "OH NOES SOMEONE SMILED AT MY GIRLFRIEND! TWICE!" I think it's stupid. I think it's overreaction. If the guy at sat down in front of them, next to the guy's girlfriend and said, "Hey baby, why not ditch this stooge and let's go somewhere?" I would first have laughed my arse off and secondly understood and appreciated the discomfort of the situation. However, I repeat: I would still have handled it in a mature and adult manner--first bringing it to his supervisor's attention, then deciding that this restaurant has no prospects for a decent lunch/dinner/whatever and moved on to another, laughed about it all and forgotten about it a few weeks later.
If in any other situation it happened, I would, along with my other half, just walked off and if he kept pestering/harassing/looking for a fight then I would once again do the adult thing and go to the copshop, and if he hits me, I'd have his ass in court. I would NOT be baited into having a criminal record for assault on my name for something so ridiculously petty.
Surely this is not rocket science and is something you can easily understand?
