Wife cheated

abzob said:
Why? That guy doesn’t owe you anything. It’s strange when men behave this way. It’s your wife’s fault, don’t try to blame the other guy or take it out on him.



It really doesn’t.
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Both are equally to blame. She is not innocent
 
And the comments dont disappoint. Just like all the GBV **** on here.

Wife's that cheat aren't the saints and angels you were brought up to believe. Blame your ****ing unfaithful wife's FFS.

Note, no one is talking about the emotional abuse the guy receives from this.
 
Once you are divorced just don't rush into another relationship. That is the worst thing to do.
 
Nemus said:
Don't. Get in your car, load her stuff and take her yourself.
This will make you feel better and will finalise things, to a degree.
For her, you made the effort all the way to the end.
To her parents, they will see what you did for her even when she decided to leave you for them.
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It's true what you say. I made an effort and tried to the end. No fingers can be pointed
 
This brings back some memories, not very good ones unfortunately but I have since moved onwards and upwards. Good luck! I can't give much advice other than to keep moving forward, one day at a time and keep your head up...

P.S. I met my fiancé while getting divorced, we bought a house together, have two dogs, our son was born last year and are both happier than we have ever been.
 
Once you are divorced just don't rush into another relationship. That is the worst thing to do.
 
James 77 said:
It's true what you say. I made an effort and tried to the end. No fingers can be pointed
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This is the one piece of advice that was given to me, try as hard as you can doing whatever you think you should, until the end so that you can look back with little to no regrets.
 
The_Donkey said:
Women like to write things down. At least my wife does.

Start there and once you have his name, go to contacts.google.com on a machine where she's logged into Google and get his number. That's if you feel like snooping around :)

But this begs the question, what are you going to do or say to him once you have his contact details?
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I have her Facebook and email passwords and there's no indication whatsoever
 
James 77 said:
Don’t worry, I will find him and it will end badly for him. It’s not going to remedy the situation, but it will definitely make me feel better.
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No it won't, trust me on this one.

I've been down this road before and it helps sweet fek all.

Walk away and make as clean a break as you can as quickly as you can. Either get her out of the property or you get out (if the property is rented). If its owned then figure that shyte out and fast for your own sanity.
 
itsme2 said:
Hi, I'm sorry you are in this situ. It happens. You can unpack it one day, you might find she was unhappy for a long time beforehand, and as with all things in life, all problems stem from a lack of correct communication.

Finding out who she did it with is meaningless. He was the symptom of the problem in your relationship, a result of it. You will only feel better for a short time. Ignore this.

Best advice I've seen here, is get her to pack her bags, and have a driver drop her back at home with her parents. Seek legal advice asap. You have a contract with this woman, you need to see how this can and will financially affect you, and your next moves. But for now, you need to remove yourself from this situation. You cannot both be staying at the same house. If it were me, I'd give her until the end of the day to pack her things, and have an Uber arrive to get her. If it needs to drag out longer, go and stay at a hotel.
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I agree, beating him up will only make me feel better for a while. Which is worth it in a sense, but she is equally to blame.

Financially is alright. I have 20 K's worth of assets in my name, and we are married out of community of property.
 
Jaws677 said:
What difference will it make?

Moering every guy that just looks at your wife wount stop her cheating if she wants to.

The only person who can keep your wife faithful is your wife herself.

She doesn't need to have another guys dick inside her to cheat on you - it's starts way before it get physical

But anycase if you want to go full on Boksburg to make yourself feel better please go ahead.
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My wife. You don't touch. You regret big time. Who said you need to moer him? There are better ways to do it, which will also be much more effective over a longer period. Leave the moer to someone else. ;)
 
Go see a decent attorney.

Infidelity is a grounds for divorce - with quick and decent legal advice you can avoid a lot of mess.
Depending on your prenuptial, she could be sent packing with very little of not anything at all (short marriage, young (?) and no kids - works in your favour).

It might sound cold, but let her move out and go stay with her parents (after you get legal advise of course...). The space will give you time to think clearly.

But do get legal advise asap.
 
Matt91 said:
Sorry for the situation OP, definitely a kak one. Out of pure interest what was her crude message and how did that get you suspicious enough to confront her?
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Staying out for coffee at a girlfriend's house for the entire afternoon, later than she said, and not really caring about our dinner plans. And when I asked her about it she said "am I not allowed to have friends" and "I will be there when we are done", I tried contacting her twice as well to ask what's wrong,and both times no answer.

When she returned we spoke about it, she was arrogant and I asked her where she was and she confessed to the affair
 
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