I am having a breakdown

smallearth said:
Condoms which he doesn't use at home are proof...
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Yup last time we were on condoms was before I was put on implanon. and we were not planning on having a baby until his finances are in order. but with after all these drama, the implanon will be staying on for the entire 3 years.

so Last night after discovering the condoms in my dashboard thing, i took them out and put them on our dresser. when he came home at 9 and saw them, his face said it all. he asked what they were. and I said they are condoms. asked what are they doing there, and i told him i found them in the car. and he stuttered a bit and said they must be his friend's. Like really? I didn't even argue.
this Morning he tried to mention them again making stupid joke about his friend getting them on special or something like that. I just ignored him.
 
headache said:
Yup last time we were on condoms was before I was put on implanon. and we were not planning on having a baby until his finances are in order. but with after all these drama, the implanon will be staying on for the entire 3 years.

so Last night after discovering the condoms in my dashboard thing, i took them out and put them on our dresser. when he came home at 9 and saw them, his face said it all. he asked what they were. and I said they are condoms. asked what are they doing there, and i told him i found them in the car. and he stuttered a bit and said they must be his friend's. Like really? I didn't even argue.
this Morning he tried to mention them again making stupid joke about his friend getting them on special or something like that. I just ignored him.
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He's not very good at lying I can tell you that much :D
 
headache said:
Yup last time we were on condoms was before I was put on implanon. and we were not planning on having a baby until his finances are in order. but with after all these drama, the implanon will be staying on for the entire 3 years.

so Last night after discovering the condoms in my dashboard thing, i took them out and put them on our dresser. when he came home at 9 and saw them, his face said it all. he asked what they were. and I said they are condoms. asked what are they doing there, and i told him i found them in the car. and he stuttered a bit and said they must be his friend's. Like really? I didn't even argue.
this Morning he tried to mention them again making stupid joke about his friend getting them on special or something like that. I just ignored him.
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With that added info I have to agree with the others, it doesn't sound good :(
 
headache said:
Yup last time we were on condoms was before I was put on implanon. and we were not planning on having a baby until his finances are in order. but with after all these drama, the implanon will be staying on for the entire 3 years.

so Last night after discovering the condoms in my dashboard thing, i took them out and put them on our dresser. when he came home at 9 and saw them, his face said it all. he asked what they were. and I said they are condoms. asked what are they doing there, and i told him i found them in the car. and he stuttered a bit and said they must be his friend's. Like really? I didn't even argue.
this Morning he tried to mention them again making stupid joke about his friend getting them on special or something like that. I just ignored him.
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Cheater alert...
 
headache said:
just the one child
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I don't see reason to stay with him then. Doesn't matter what he tells you, you'll never trust him. Once you suspect him of cheating, nothing is gonna change your mind. Leave the bastid
 
Op, you need to work up the courage to bring up the subject of cheating, with your husband. Right now, there's still an element of doubt, but the sooner you get to the bottom of it, the sooner you can a find a solution to the traumatic situation you're going through. Also important is getting to the why, for the first time in your marriage, he's been cheating on you. And why he's been wanting you to find out about it. In turn, you can finally tell him how much the cheating is hurting you. From there you'll be able to make a more informed decision in your capacity as partner in the relationship.

Regarding maintenance, should you decide to stay with your husband, stress how important it is to you in principle that your ex-husband pays maintenance. For sanity's sake, sometimes it's best to let go of hate for confrontation and face the music, especially if you feel strongly about it. Couples argue, even in the best of relationships.
 
jingaling said:
Op, you need to work up the courage to bring up the subject of cheating, with your husband. Right now, there's still an element of doubt, but the sooner you get to the bottom of it, the sooner you can a find a solution to the traumatic situation you're going through. Also important is getting to the why, for the first time in your marriage, he's been cheating on you. And why he's been wanting you to find out about it. In turn, you can finally tell him how much the cheating is hurting you. From there you'll be able to make a more informed decision in your capacity as partner in the relationship.

Regarding maintenance, should you decide to stay with your husband, stress how important it is to you in principle that your ex-husband pays maintenance. For sanity's sake, sometimes it's best to let go of hate for confrontation and face the music, especially if you feel strongly about it. Couples argue, even in the best of relationships.
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Or put a tracker in your and his car and find out if he is still at the office.
 
jingaling said:
Op, you need to work up the courage to bring up the subject of cheating, with your husband. Right now, there's still an element of doubt, but the sooner you get to the bottom of it, the sooner you can a find a solution to the traumatic situation you're going through. Also important is getting to the why, for the first time in your marriage, he's been cheating on you. And why he's been wanting you to find out about it. In turn, you can finally tell him how much the cheating is hurting you. From there you'll be able to make a more informed decision in your capacity as partner in the relationship.

Regarding maintenance, should you decide to stay with your husband, stress how important it is to you in principle that your ex-husband pays maintenance. For sanity's sake, sometimes it's best to let go of hate for confrontation and face the music, especially if you feel strongly about it. Couples argue, even in the best of relationships.
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[video=youtube;pKlg3jYMwRU]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKlg3jYMwRU[/video]
 
jingaling said:
Op, you need to work up the courage to bring up the subject of cheating, with your husband. Right now, there's still an element of doubt, but the sooner you get to the bottom of it, the sooner you can a find a solution to the traumatic situation you're going through. Also important is getting to the why, for the first time in your marriage, he's been cheating on you. And why he's been wanting you to find out about it. In turn, you can finally tell him how much the cheating is hurting you. From there you'll be able to make a more informed decision in your capacity as partner in the relationship.

Regarding maintenance, should you decide to stay with your husband, stress how important it is to you in principle that your ex-husband pays maintenance. For sanity's sake, sometimes it's best to let go of hate for confrontation and face the music, especially if you feel strongly about it. Couples argue, even in the best of relationships.
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That is the most sensible thing anyone has posted in this thread.
 
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