Would be awesome to see though.
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Would be awesome to see though.
TiredOfWaiting
Expert Member
I've said it before and I'll say it again, violence just leads to more violence...
Beat your kids and they'll eventually beat their wives or the guy that just drove into them...
Beat your kids and they'll eventually beat their wives or the guy that just drove into them...
Datura
Captain Faptastic
LMAO @ that nonsense.
WOW who would have thought
So Chiskop what will you do when your kid comes home and says "fsck you" when you ask him to do the dishs
Actually a kid who doesn't get a klap from a parent is probably gonna get a far worse beating down line from somebody unrelated.
I know a few who can vouch for that
Bull.
haha.
chiskop
Executive Member
WOW who would have thought
So Chiskop what will you do when your kid comes home and says "fsck you" when you ask him to do the dishs
1. She is not a him.
2. When she behaves well, she is rewarded. When she misbehaves, she is disciplined. It's just not a physical punishment.
You never know there could be a him somewhere along the line
What like being sent to her room or being grounded. I dunno but I found the thought of a klap far more likely to stop me misbehaving.
TiredOfWaiting
Expert Member
You never know there could be a him somewhere along the line
What like being sent to her room or being grounded. I dunno but I found the thought of a klap far more likely to stop me misbehaving.
Little kids can't work, so they can't earn money to buy stuff...
Use that to blackmail them with. No TV for the rest of the week/month or not buying them the new toy/MP3 player they so desperately want works very well, much better than physically beating them. Pain lasts for only a few seconds/minutes, but when you let them suffer for a week or so, they'll have lots of time to contemplate what they did wrong.
But then it lingers on and on. Rather get it over and done with then move on. For a whole week/month you gotta monitor them to make sure they don't break the punishment. Things could get real messy.
Datura
Captain Faptastic
Ja, you could end up klapping them!
Ever heard of China?
NightWulfe
Well-Known Member
If you ground your kids or whatever, I think you gonna have a lot of resentment on your hands. A smack is associated with what was done, and then it is DONE. Klaar. Finished. Grounding is just asking for more trouble by adding more rules that can be broken that were unnecessary in the first place, it compounds the problem, it doesn't solve it.
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Fudzy
Guest
How do you then teach them thats its not a solution to hit someone when they are older?
NightWulfe
Well-Known Member
Well I doubt anyone in their right minds will go up to their employees when they're in their late 20s and give them a spank for doing something wrong.
I'm not saying pull a fist and panel the kid, I'm saying give them a smack for doing something wrong.
This is not something you carry on doing throughout the (pre-)teen years! When the child is old enough, they should have a clear definition of right and wrong, and it can be talked out like adults. I'm talking about disciplining a young child. I don't believe in hitting a child in the face or a clip upside the ear, that I think is wrong, I'm talking about a good old fashioned over the knee spank. I admit I don't have kids, but I know from when I was a kid, I got smacked when I was a little s***, and rightly so, and I KNEW afterwards that I was doing wrong, and I wasn't gonna go and do it again. Same as in school, I got jacks, and I bloody deserved them.
I'm not saying pull a fist and panel the kid, I'm saying give them a smack for doing something wrong.
This is not something you carry on doing throughout the (pre-)teen years! When the child is old enough, they should have a clear definition of right and wrong, and it can be talked out like adults. I'm talking about disciplining a young child. I don't believe in hitting a child in the face or a clip upside the ear, that I think is wrong, I'm talking about a good old fashioned over the knee spank. I admit I don't have kids, but I know from when I was a kid, I got smacked when I was a little s***, and rightly so, and I KNEW afterwards that I was doing wrong, and I wasn't gonna go and do it again. Same as in school, I got jacks, and I bloody deserved them.
If you explained to them what they did to deserve the hiding, they should do ok. It's hitting a child for no apparent reason that causes a general breakdown in trust.
If the child learn from the start that actions have consequences, they learn to abide by the rules.
Locking the kid in a room or grounding the little offender is fine maybe when they are still young, but the moment they start to assert their own personalities you have problems. You can't ground a kid for not obeying the first grounding. At some point it simply doesn't work anymore.
TiredOfWaiting
Expert Member
You're seriously underestimating the leverage you have as parent.
Little kids (toddlers and pre-school) demand constant attention - withhold that attention and they will very quickly change their ways. And I'm not talking about not feeding them or anything like that, just pretend they're not there when they throw a tantrum or start screaming...
Older kids want things and approval more than attention, so use that to your advantage. The key is being creative and knowing what your children want/need most.