Relationship Advice?!?!?!?

Sly21C said:
Please allow me to hijack this thread :)

So I have dated my current girlfriend for almost 4 months now, and I have a simple question:
- Is it appropriate or not appropriate for my girlfriend to post a picture of her guy friend on instagram? The guy friend happens to be her ex-boyfriend by the way. But they dated for 2 weeks about 2 years ago. The picture that she posted is of her having a video conversation via IMO (Skype like video calling app) and she took a picture, or a screenshot, of her and her guy friend. The guy friend's face happens to occupy like 90% of the photo, while my girlfriend's face occupies 10% of the photo or screenshot on the top left hand corner. The reason she posted the picture, and video called her guy friend, is because it was his birthday. What made me even mre unsettled is that she has never posted a picture of any of her other guy or lady friends on Instagram. Ever!

I told her the picture makes me extremely uncomfortable, and we had a huge fight about it. I then decided to not follow her on Instagram anymore (she has a private account) since she refused to delete the picture. I unfollowed her so she can be free to do whatever she wants without risking upsetting me. But I was extremely hurt and felt like she disrespected me. She posted 2 pictures of me on her Instagram, reffering me as "KindBae". The guyfriend knows that I am her boyfriend.

I am an introvert, and she is extremely extroverted and very outgoind.

Am I being unreasonable in being uncomfortable and upset about what she has done? Is it normal for girlfriends to post pictures of their ex boyfriends or guyfriends with "heart" symbols all over the place?
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Leave. You are is comfortable and she won't compromise.

You are being a tad sensitive about the whole thing imo. She wants to be with you, thus she is. Enjoy that and don't fret the small stuff.
 
skeptic_SA said:
She's bonking him or wishes she was still. Leave her.
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I suspect she is bonking him on a friends with benefits arrangement, hence he's okay me being her boyfriend. There were a couple of times I would call a whole night on a Saturday and she wouldn't answer, but she would answer during weekdays.

Pho3nix said:
Leave. You are is comfortable and she won't compromise.

You are being a tad sensitive about the whole thing imo. She wants to be with you, thus she is. Enjoy that and don't fret the small stuff.
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She said the same thing to me, i.e. I am making a huge deal out of this.
 
Sly21C said:
I suspect she is bonking him on a friends with benefits arrangement, hence he's okay me being her boyfriend. There were a couple of times I would call a whole night on a Saturday and she wouldn't answer, but she would answer during weekdays.



She said the same thing to me, i.e. I am making a huge deal out of this.
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One thing in life i have learnt is, trust your instincts.
 
Sly21C said:
I suspect she is bonking him on a friends with benefits arrangement, hence he's okay me being her boyfriend. There were a couple of times I would call a whole night on a Saturday and she wouldn't answer, but she would answer during weekdays.
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Just cut it off... You are causing yourself more pain trying to keep her in line. The above is very suspicious imo.
Not worth it guy...
 
Sly21C said:
I suspect she is bonking him on a friends with benefits arrangement, hence he's okay me being her boyfriend. There were a couple of times I would call a whole night on a Saturday and she wouldn't answer, but she would answer during weekdays.
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Well that is something different then. People don't just disappear or forget boyfriends on weekends. Dodgy as furk.
She said the same thing to me, i.e. I am making a huge deal out of this.
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True but linked with the above.. You aren't crazy to think what you be thinking.

Either speak to her about all this in detail or leave.
Like @Lament said, trust your instincts.. Unless you have daddy or trust issues, then get a 2-5th opinion :p
 
Sly21C said:
reffering me as "KindBae". The guyfriend knows that I am her boyfriend.
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Personally, I would never date someone that refer's to me as bae, or any other crap like that.
Can't wait to hear what she calls your "johnson".
 
SYNERGY said:
Personally, I would never date someone that refer's to me as bae, or any other crap like that.
Can't wait to hear what she calls your "johnson".
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Little Bae, Baeby Bae :crylaugh:
 
you are being too sensative about it AND she is lying.
or you are being paranoid and she is just being friendly.

what would I do in the situation? find a random friend. post a similar picture on facebook. see if she freaks, give it like two weeks.

if she freaks you were being paranoid(or right and women are crazy)
if she does noting she has already moved on and you should too.



but trolling aside, the grown up thing to do is leave it. if there is more evidence break it off. but while gathering evidence do not spend money on her.
 
CamiKaze said:
Just cut it off... You are causing yourself more pain trying to keep her in line. The above is very suspicious imo.
Not worth it guy...
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Very good point. I've already prepared myself for us to break up. Having sleepless nights and stressing all the time is not cool.

Pho3nix said:
Well that is something different then. People don't just disappear or forget boyfriends on weekends. Dodgy as furk.

True but linked with the above.. You aren't crazy to think what you be thinking.

Either speak to her about all this in detail or leave.
Like @Lament said, trust your instincts.. Unless you have daddy or trust issues, then get a 2-5th opinion :p
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I have a bit of jealousy issues yes, but her not answering phone calls from 6pm until 9pm (calling every hour obvisouly) on 3 occassions (Saturdays) is suspicious. She would say she is sick and all that jazz.
 
Sly21C said:
Very good point. I've already prepared myself for us to break up. Having sleepless nights and stressing all the time is not cool.



I have a bit of jealousy issues yes, but her not answering phone calls from 6pm until 9pm (calling every hour obvisouly) on 3 occassions (Saturdays) is suspicious. She would say she is sick and all that jazz.
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She's doing other stuff, or the other guy. She sounds like she's young, which would explain the behavior. In my exp young ladies never fully commit, you sound like you are fully committed and she is not. Sounds like she wants to be with this guy? Why did they stop dating? One of them move away?
 
Sly21C said:
I have a bit of jealousy issues yes, but her not answering phone calls from 6pm until 9pm (calling every hour obvisouly) on 3 occassions (Saturdays) is suspicious. She would say she is sick and all that jazz.
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No reason to call it an issue given what you brought forward... You have the right to be. Any person on this planet knows the basics of the do's and dont's in a relationship.
 
4 months? That's not a relationship yet, just drop her and move along.
 
Drop it like a ton of bricks and move on.
In fact don't even call her just move on, she doesn't deserve any further communication.
 
Lament said:
Welcome to 2016 where this is perfectly acceptable (apparently)
i agree with you, but get ready to be speeched about being more self assured, giving her her space, be an alpha male and who knows what other jazz.
Again, this is why i am single. I will not stand for s1ht like this.
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I think I'll join you. I can't stand this ish too. I'd rather be single forever and just get random ladies until Jesus comes back :D
 
Sly21C said:
Please allow me to hijack this thread :)

So I have dated my current girlfriend for almost 4 months now, and I have a simple question:
- Is it appropriate or not appropriate for my girlfriend to post a picture of her guy friend on instagram? The guy friend happens to be her ex-boyfriend by the way. But they dated for 2 weeks about 2 years ago. The picture that she posted is of her having a video conversation via IMO (Skype like video calling app) and she took a picture, or a screenshot, of her and her guy friend. The guy friend's face happens to occupy like 90% of the photo, while my girlfriend's face occupies 10% of the photo or screenshot on the top left hand corner. The reason she posted the picture, and video called her guy friend, is because it was his birthday. What made me even mre unsettled is that she has never posted a picture of any of her other guy or lady friends on Instagram. Ever!

I told her the picture makes me extremely uncomfortable, and we had a huge fight about it. I then decided to not follow her on Instagram anymore (she has a private account) since she refused to delete the picture. I unfollowed her so she can be free to do whatever she wants without risking upsetting me. But I was extremely hurt and felt like she disrespected me. She posted 2 pictures of me on her Instagram, reffering me as "KindBae". The guyfriend knows that I am her boyfriend.

I am an introvert, and she is extremely extroverted and very outgoind.

Am I being unreasonable in being uncomfortable and upset about what she has done? Is it normal for girlfriends to post pictures of their ex boyfriends or guyfriends with "heart" symbols all over the place?
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Do you want the obvious answer or do you want me to lie and tell you the two of you are meant to be?
 
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