Thanks guys.
Another update (apologies for the long thread - but maybe it can assist someone)
HR phones and says as I'm appealing the warnings, process is going to get someone from SEESA to be a 'neutral' person and hear both sides to see the next step.
Someone tells me they're going to make me an offer to just leave, based on their experience, as I've become a nuisance. Guess they thought I'd just quiver and fall over?
Anyhow, when I asked if I can have a representative, they said nope. I will however get this in writing
Googling
http://www.seesa.co.za confirms this :
We currently protect and promote the interests of over 35 000 South African business owners and employers.*SEESA*has an in-house team of over 250 legal advisors