How are you supposed to pick just one?

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I, like most guys, adore observing pretty creatures of the female variety...

I have no specific requirements as to what makes me like one over the other - each selection is so because of different traits and habits.

Many cause butterflies, and many cause short & long-term crushes.

They excite in physical and visual ways. Sometimes even emotional.

Stepping aside from the celebrity, pr0n and past/present partner/s, those who are involved in your current life in some way or another are usually the subjects of such fervour.

For example, I've had a 'thing' for atleast half of the women in my building at some stage or another.

Currently there are three young ladies, all very different and all very appealing in one way or another.

Do any of you experience a similiar conundrum?

Would you consider it a case of simply being oversexed? I doubt I'd deny it to anyone if it were posed to me.

...or is it more?

For the record, I have a 'partner', who is aware of the above. If I wanted to act upon the above, we would amicably and collectively end our little soiree.

What are your thoughts and experiences? Are you the same?
 
Sounds like you need to do your current chick in the butt and then these feelings will subside.

Sounds like a lack of butt sex to me. I have heard of men being horny but this case seems odd so it can only be one thing i guess.
 
Sticking to one partner is imposed on us by society. It's pretty normal to want to shag several different women.
But maintaining a relationship with one of them is enough work. Imagine having to put up with more, it would drive a man crazy :eek:
Well unless your name is Jacob Zuma.
 
I've been battling with the question on why sex and relationships have to go hand in hand....
 
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Thanks for the constructive - and previously heard - advice, killadoob. ;)

It's not just a case of sex (not in every case), it's about wanting to be the man attached to that specific woman. The one who spends time with her.

I'm not, strictly speaking, in a 'relationship' at the moment...for various reasons, which I'm not going into. :D

Agreed, Matt. One IS more than enough. Hehe.

I just wondered how many other guys out there experienced the same. If it is very unusual, then I have some another suspicion.
 
invite them all to your place together. then have one huge huddle****.
 
xrapidx said:
I've been battling with the question on why sex and relationships have to go hand in hand....
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I have been battling with the questiong on why I only get to have proper relationships and sex with my hand...
 
Datura said:
I have been battling with the questiong on why I only get to have proper relationships and sex with my hand...
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I'm battling with the question on whether that means you're having a relationship with your hand... or you're not getting any :p
 
@ OP: I agree with most of what you said. I also find various traits in various women attractive. Its got nothing to do with sex, it's just appreciating something beautiful/attractive.
 
Ok - I'm the only 100% male here then...it all has to do about sexual attraction.
 
Hmmm, you could adopt the idea that you don't have a specific partner. Just have a number of different girls whom you could, at any point, act upon the sexual/emotional needs.

Not that I would know, I'm a fat kid behind a pc.
 
scotty777 said:
Hmmm, you could adopt the idea that you don't have a specific partner. Just have a number of different girls whom you could, at any point, act upon the sexual/emotional needs.

Not that I would know, I'm a fat kid behind a pc.
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Hahaha! Nice admission, Scotty. ;)

It's just interesting to get other people's experiences on the same subject.

All of those who proclaim the finding of their "soul mate", do they somehow override their hormones? I doubt it. Humans are animals - we act on instinct and urges like all of the others. Yes, we have more control over it - we can commit to one at a time, usually, but we're still part of the animal kingdom.
 
Once you hit puberty your hormones does get the better of you. Strange that it's so late in your life. (I assume you're in your very early 20's)

All joking aside though... you're driven by lust. You'll discover later in life that (forgetting about what "society" wants and what religious doctrine "taught" us), you'll more than likely would want to have only 1 partner. Sure, she's pretty now, and you want to bang half the population of women now (because you think with your tottie), but pretty women get old and wrinkly... so do you. And even though there's a new batch of young pretty ladies to try to sow your seed into, it will never give you the emotional satisfaction of having someone there for you.

Next time you have sex, right after, that feeling is NOT "emotional satisfaction". It's just a bunch of chemicals that make you feel good for the moment, much like a sugar rush after you eat a chocolate or drink a coke (or Red Bull). The emotional satisfaction is a daily thing you feel without any kind of intimacy, and it's weird how your definition of intimacy changes over the years as well.

good luck and update us on the number of sexy sex you have had with all the women. It's always fun to hear of adventures
 
Haha. Thanks for the write-up AR.

I'm actually in my late[r] 20s, and although I did clamber onto the 'social' train a little late, so to speak, I've always had a healthy need to evaluate the wildlife.

I do get what you're saying about emotional satisfaction - and I agree - but for certain reasons I'm just not ready for that. Might never be - like I said, reasons.

I'm not really a 'tell all' kind of guy, but I'll comment here and there on other threads... :)
 
As my gf says: we are not swans, but I would certainly reccomend choosing one at a time.

As to how to choose - someone you enjoy spending time with as well as having sex with. Just cuz a chick is hot doesn't mean you're going to enjoy spending time with her ( apart from the time spent shagging her and that isn't guaranteed either).

If the sex is good and you can a day just watching dvds and TV with her shes probably a good choice.
 
Nick333 said:
As my gf says: we are not swans, but I would certainly reccomend choosing one at a time.

As to how to choose - someone you enjoy spending time with as well as having sex with. Just cuz a chick is hot doesn't mean you're going to enjoy spending time with her ( apart from the time spent shagging her and that isn't guaranteed either).

If the sex is good and you can a day just watching dvds and TV with her shes probably a good choice.
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Very true.
 
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