Friendships brought to an end....

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I have had this internet buddy since 1996, I've known her for 10 years. Wittiest girl i've met and loved making her laugh. Except for an sms saying she is changing her phone a couple of weeks back, we haven't chatted in 2 months or so (via MSN)

Today I decided to sms her to find out how it's going and if her new phone was made in Wales (the Scottish "love" that, lol)

Got an email just now ending our 10 year friendship citing that I should remove her from MSN and her cellphone from my phone, that she's distancing herself from her online "friends" (WITH the quotes) and that she won't bother replying if she gets messages.

Thats it... no reason, just she wants nothing to do with me anymore (assuming her other friends including one of my best friends that have known her just as long as I have...)

Is it okay to be hurt by this? I mean, wtf did I do to her?

Some of you might know I don't have many friends (those who don't know I'm also known as noone on here) and losing this friendship... wtf man. I was looking forward to meeting her when I went to the UK in this year.

Wish i didn't feel anything... well... hey... how pathetic am i posting it here... bet you a mod would remove it... just had to kinda vent.... sorry
 
Maybe she was witholding something from u and hearing u coming her way u might find out about what she was hiding and this prompted this 'break-up'.
My worthless 2 cents.
 
stepper, doubt that was it. Doubt it very much. You don't chat to someone for 10 years and not get to know them. Have had webcam chats, skype chats, even phoned on meh cellphone. I've also been planning to go to the UK since 2000.

I think supersunbird could be right, however, she has had a bf for several months, dunno if she broke up with him or that he is the instagator of all of this. People tend to "go offline" when their "other half" wants them to. Even if it means giving up their longtime friendship i guess
 
adamr said:
shes gotten married dude ...
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doubt that, she would definately have mentioned it previously, trust me, its not just a dilly dally friendship. 10 years.... ****... some people have no respect for others.....im just a figment of people's imagination online....not really real.... and if you're not really real, how could you have feelings....
 
AcidRaZor said:
Is it okay to be hurt by this? I mean, wtf did I do to her?
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I guess nothing, perhaps someone has got to her. You will have to see when you get to the UK
AcidRaZor said:
bet you a mod would remove it... just had to kinda vent.... sorry
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If you had posted this under news discussuons, then yes ;)
 
I feel for you man, i'm also a sort of a lone wolf, and i know how it feels when you have one true friend you can talk to no matter what then suddenly lose their friendship for no reason.

Life aint fair :(
 
Won't remove it noone. It is okay to feel hurt by this, but you have friends here.

AcidRaZor said:
I have had this internet buddy since 1996, I've known her for 10 years. Wittiest girl i've met and loved making her laugh. Except for an sms saying she is changing her phone a couple of weeks back, we haven't chatted in 2 months or so (via MSN)

Today I decided to sms her to find out how it's going and if her new phone was made in Wales (the Scottish "love" that, lol)

Got an email just now ending our 10 year friendship citing that I should remove her from MSN and her cellphone from my phone, that she's distancing herself from her online "friends" (WITH the quotes) and that she won't bother replying if she gets messages.

Thats it... no reason, just she wants nothing to do with me anymore (assuming her other friends including one of my best friends that have known her just as long as I have...)

Is it okay to be hurt by this? I mean, wtf did I do to her?

Some of you might know I don't have many friends (those who don't know I'm also known as noone on here) and losing this friendship... wtf man. I was looking forward to meeting her when I went to the UK in this year.

Wish i didn't feel anything... well... hey... how pathetic am i posting it here... bet you a mod would remove it... just had to kinda vent.... sorry
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AcidRaZor said:
Is it okay to be hurt by this? I mean, wtf did I do to her?
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Thats really sad man! Of course it is OK to be hurt by that - I certainly would be. My nose tells me something pretty serious must have happened in her life that she is not telling you. I'd send her a "goodbye" thanking her for the friendship and strongly telling her that if she ever needs you to make contact.
 
mmm I have seen jealous bf's got lots of power over their ladies.

BF: What you doing honey?

GF: Chating to my friend Acid from SA. He's such a cool guy.

BF's brain: ZOMG!!!! I know how i chatter and cybers with teh chicks when I'm online, it so easy with teh tramps hanging on teh net, no gf of mine is chattin on the net, its full of pervs, sickos and weirdos. Dont want my girl sending nude picks of herself to him like that other swedish girl sent me..mmm nude pics..................... <2 minutes later> OMFG!!! And he is one those boerz, they have such big ****s, he will steal her from me and my puny ****.

BF: Hey honey, I dont like it when you guys on the net, your so pretty and I think they are all after only one thing, lets go down to the pub for a pint.

GF: Sure baby <and she logs off>
 
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AcidRaZor said:
doubt that, she would definately have mentioned it previously, trust me, its not just a dilly dally friendship. 10 years.... ****... some people have no respect for others.....im just a figment of people's imagination online....not really real.... and if you're not really real, how could you have feelings....
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i personally am not cool with my GF having a best or close friend thats a guy and not gay. Dont mind her having guys as friends. Always heard stories of them ditching the BF for the friend, works the other way as well. Think it was her boyfriends insecurity.

and i cant help it either being like that, its tough dont know what to say ...
 
AcidRaZor said:
Is it okay to be hurt by this? I mean, wtf did I do to her?
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H3ll yeah, if you weren't hurt by it, I would be REALLY worried about you. People, well people with no experience, always tend to think that online friends aren't really friends, it is just someone to chat to. SSSOOOO wrong.

In the couple of months I've been hanging around this forum, I've gotten to 'know' quite a few people. Not know like you've known your friend, but you do start to warm up to people in a community like this. We are all 'friends' here, and there is a very easy way to tell: We fight, we banter, we give each other ****, just like real friends will do.

That being said, reading your post, I honestly feel sad. I feel sorry for you, not sorry as in pity, but it sucks (I terminated a 'reallife' :) friendship of 24 years a couple of months ago, and even though there are definitely hard feelings, it still makes one sad.

So, buck up bronco, cry if you have to, don't if you don't need to. It is sad, and you should feel hurt by it ... you were friends for 10 years.

But you, as noone or Acid or whoever for that matter, have friends here. Know it, believe it!
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true, it was ten years ... thats long, you should be quite attached to someone after so long.
dont know dude its sad. was it getting to a stage where it was becoming more then just friends? or that never was something that came up ...
feel like im intruding, if i am i will back off
 
Yip, think the people here summed it up nicely. Internet friendships do mean something. Rather harsh way of ending it. My daddy always said: Life is like...:rolleyes: no...he said that you really shouldn't ever terminate a friendship. You never know when you might need the flucker in the future.
I'm sorry that you are feeling sad.:( I'll give you a cyber hug *hugz* :)
 
No its fine, in the beginning we could have been more than friends but it never really came up. We were just that... friends...

I understand the fact about the jealous boyfriend not wanting her to be my friend because I'm an online pervert, but in the 10 years I've known her she never gave in to my requests for nude pics. Her personality is very strong, she won't just have given up our friendship for a guy, even during the stages with her long term bf she broke up just a lil over a year ago now. (duno how long she's been seeing the other guy for....)

We could geniunely just chat to each other, flirt sometimes but mostly.... I think mostly it's cause she got who I am and never really judged me for that.

Thanks guys...
 
LOL let me turn this thread into a battlefield!

AcidRaZor, the only thing I can say is: women are full of ****!

the thing I hate most is that they are absolutely feelingless! For them you are just the next toy they get to play with, some day they wake up with their arse and there you go!

hence the reason I spent my time on the net, rather than devoting myself to some feelingless, sensless, selfish and full of **** thing that doesn't even know what it wants from life!

bottom line, stay away from women, there is nothing good to be expected!
 
AcidRaZor said:
...but in the 10 years I've known her she never gave in to my requests for nude pics ...
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is this said as a joke? or were you serious?
from an insecure BF which would be me ... i would be uncomfortable with my GF even flirting with some other guy be it even online even if just as a joke. i dont know. if you had feelings for her should have just told her and not kept it in, and i doubt those feelings just go away .. .they grow with time .... if you do tell her, even at this late stage ... rather get that off your chest. i doubt she can also just forget you .. its ten years!!!
 
swordfish1 said:
LOL let me turn this thread into a battlefield!

AcidRaZor, the only thing I can say is: women are full of ****!

the thing I hate most is that they are absolutely feelingless! For them you are just the next toy they get to play with, some day they wake up with their arse and there you go!

hence the reason I spent my time on the net, rather than devoting myself to some feelingless, sensless, selfish and full of **** thing that doesn't even know what it wants from life!

bottom line, stay away from women, there is nothing good to be expected!
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woman we can never understand, i tried to but never got it right ... and trust me she does feel something but she wont say ... a person just does not forget or throw someone away after 10 years, dude like ive said before let her know whats in your heart, speak your heart out ... at least its off your chest.
 
I am sorry to hear about your friendship ending Acid. I hope you will be better soon. Big hugs. I will pm you..
 
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