......who's a friend of mine. To me, she is my best (lady) friend. We went to the same high school together but didn't speak too many words to each other while in high school, I didn't know her that well at all then. After matriculating, it so happened that we went to the same tertiary institution. We would bump into each other once every 2 weeks or so, we just greeted each other and that's it. The first (proper) conversation I had with her was in a bus going to work. From then on we kept in touch until today.
She's a born again Christian and I'm agnostic. She's highly intelligent and I talk to her about anything. We talk politics, movies, gossip, relationships etc. She's an Independent woman, lives on her own and has a cool job. She doesn't have kids and I don't have kids either.
About 2 years ago I was infatuated by her and I made a move and she rejected me. I almost ruined our friendship with that move but I ended up accepting that she doesn't see me that way and we will never work out. So we've picked up the pieces and re-established that friendship until today.
I am in my mid 20s and I am fast approaching the age of 30 (she's the same age as me), I am beginning to realize that I need to find myself a woman who I will hopefully marry one day because I am not getting any younger. I have girlfriend now and I am planning on dumping her this week because there's no love there anymore, I don't want to waste her time and mine by pretending the feelings are there. My lady friend knows about my (evil) plan and is not happy with what I am planning to do.
There's a part of me that accepts it when she is with another guy but another part of me that doesn't. There's a part of me that wishes that one day I will have her as my girlfriend. Maybe we'll magically fall for each other and get married and have kids and live happily ever after. I have heard people say that if a woman sees you as a friend then you are a friend to her for life.
So what should I do? Should I stop hoping that one day she might fall for me (and vica versa) or should I risk our friendship and make a move on her one day very soon? Chances are that if I make a move on her again that our friendship will forever be ruined.
She's a born again Christian and I'm agnostic. She's highly intelligent and I talk to her about anything. We talk politics, movies, gossip, relationships etc. She's an Independent woman, lives on her own and has a cool job. She doesn't have kids and I don't have kids either.
About 2 years ago I was infatuated by her and I made a move and she rejected me. I almost ruined our friendship with that move but I ended up accepting that she doesn't see me that way and we will never work out. So we've picked up the pieces and re-established that friendship until today.
I am in my mid 20s and I am fast approaching the age of 30 (she's the same age as me), I am beginning to realize that I need to find myself a woman who I will hopefully marry one day because I am not getting any younger. I have girlfriend now and I am planning on dumping her this week because there's no love there anymore, I don't want to waste her time and mine by pretending the feelings are there. My lady friend knows about my (evil) plan and is not happy with what I am planning to do.
There's a part of me that accepts it when she is with another guy but another part of me that doesn't. There's a part of me that wishes that one day I will have her as my girlfriend. Maybe we'll magically fall for each other and get married and have kids and live happily ever after. I have heard people say that if a woman sees you as a friend then you are a friend to her for life.
So what should I do? Should I stop hoping that one day she might fall for me (and vica versa) or should I risk our friendship and make a move on her one day very soon? Chances are that if I make a move on her again that our friendship will forever be ruined.
