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Any sex, porn or masturbation addicts here?

With my divorce happening my wife brought up that my sex life isn't completely normal, and I realise I need to sort this part of me out as it isn't healthy. Luckily I've grown a bit and have found better ways to deal with it, but like i mentioned in the Pornographer thread, it's been part of who I am since I was a little kid.

How do you change something that has been the defining point in your character and development your entire life? It's kind of like reading Michael Schumachers(sp?) biography nd expecting to read about him racing at an early age, only to find out he strangled cats and burnt churches down :p It's somethign that sticks out in your memories and is a pretty big deal if you consider all the decisions you made and all the **** you got into.

I still firmly believe you can't really change what you are, you can deal with it and try to behave differently, but you never get that innocence back and you can't undo what you've done
 
What does she mean not completely normal? I remember you talking about getting turned by choking or something hurtful like that? Yeah, that wouldn't be too everyday for most.
 
I've always been a horny fccker. Never been into anything to freaky although I'll try most things at least twice. I seem to be mellowing a bit in my old age.
 
First define what defines who you are? Is it your actions? Your thoughts? Is it hardcoded by birth? If it is your actions then I believe by changing your routine and learning to deal with things then over time you will change, thus changing who you are. If its thoughts, then changing your thought patterns would then over time change who you are. If its hardcoded, well then we are all sh** outta luck
 
iAmThePope said:
First define what defines who you are? Is it your actions? Your thoughts? Is it hardcoded by birth? If it is your actions then I believe by changing your routine and learning to deal with things then over time you will change, thus changing who you are. If its thoughts, then changing your thought patterns would then over time change who you are. If its hardcoded, well then we are all sh** outta luck
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/points iATP to PD
 
R13... said:
What does she mean not completely normal? I remember you talking about getting turned by choking or something hurtful like that? Yeah, that wouldn't be too everyday for most.
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well i'm not a violent person, and she said it was okay. we spoke a lot about our pasts and growing up and i thought she understood that side to me and she was the one that volunteered to try my fetish, but i always felt kind of guilty doing it so didn't do it as much and spent more time on porn. she mentioned that she was always unsure about our future because of it and could see it's affected me deeply.

thing is it is bad, i can't talk about it really, i always have to hide it, i'm always paranoid about my family finding out that i was a little sociopath, i can never really do the things i want to do as they are really dark, so it's like a guilty pleasure which i'll never be able to do. it isn't healthy for me, but there isn't much else to me really.

the scary part is that i deal with it and it does go, but then that is a big chunk of my life gone, that is a big part of my identity gone, i don't know what will take its place
 
Get a teddy bear whilst having sex and choke the crap out of it -will that not help?
 
samr1wp said:
you married :confused:


:p
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So? She hasn't left me yet, I must be doing something right. :)

I was about to point out to you that you shouldn't participate in this thread, but then I noticed the OP mentioned masturbation as well...

:D
 
smalltownsky said:
... i can never really do the things i want to do as they are really dark, so it's like a guilty pleasure which i'll never be able to do. it isn't healthy for me...
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Hell... I say go for it. Just stop before it gets to being illegal or seriously harmful to yourself or someone else!

I don't know what you mean with it's not healthy for you... I.e. mentally because you think you can't do it or physically in some way?
 
Nicci said:
Get a teddy bear whilst having sex and choke the crap out of it -will that not help?
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Nick333 said:
I have a Hello Kitty doll for that purpose.
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:D:D


grav80 said:
So? She hasn't left me yet, I must be doing something right. :)

I was about to point out to you that you shouldn't participate in this thread, but then I noticed the OP mentioned masturbation as well...

:D
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hahahaha bastid one day i will get you back so bad lol

na i want learn more about the symptoms :p
 
So why change for other people? Find someone that's into the same ****... maybe a imp from Mordor?
 
Is it hurting you or those around you? Is it so bad that you can't work or function without it? Or are you just afraid of trying
 
grav80 said:
So? She hasn't left me yet, I must be doing something right. :)

I was about to point out to you that you shouldn't participate in this thread, but then I noticed the OP mentioned masturbation as well...

:D
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Sam doesn't masturbate. He is "saving himself" :D
 
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