Break up advice

[Ancalagon]

So....

I think I need to break up with my GF. We have been dating for 4 months, and I'm just not feeling anything. As in, it feels like I'm going through the motions, not because I am in love with her or anything.

I dont know why, there is nothing wrong with her. I cant think of anything that I really dont like, but for some reason, I'm not head over heels with her. I dont understand it. I've felt this way for 2 months or so, and I thought I'd just give it time to see if something could develop. Nothing has, not from my side anyway.

She has noticed, she has said once or twice that sometimes it feels like I dont really want to see her but am only doing it because she expects me too. She is completely right, but I've politely denied it thus far.

So I've invited her round for supper tonight, after that I need to break it to her.

Thing is, what should I say? I do want to be completely honest, but I dont want to hurt her more than necessary. I mean, obviously breaking up is not kiff, I just want to minimize the damage.

[bwana]

Just email her a link to this thread - that should do the trick.

[GreyBush]

Be honest... which in this case would be "it's not you, it's me."

[Ancalagon]

Be honest... which in this case would be "it's not you, it's me."

Hell I dont know what it is. If I knew it would be easier.

[blunomore]

You wasted 2 months of her precious time in which she could have been with someone who actually cares. Why bother with dinner? Just chat and get it over.

[xrapidx]

break-up sex ftw.

[Ancalagon]

You wasted 2 months of her precious time in which she could have been with someone who actually cares. Why bother with dinner? Just chat and get it over.

So in future I should run at the first sign of trouble?

"Oh no she has pointy elbows!"

*runs for the hills*

[praetor360]

honesty is the best I think, or else you can spend a couple of bucks and act out a horrible murder in which you are the victim. A bit over the top maybe but at least its a clean getaway.

[unskinnybob]

Your mind is made up. There is no good way to break up. Just be vocal, communicate the fact that it's over and move on. The quicker, the better. Nothing worse than a breakup dragging on for weeks/months/years.

[ShaunSA]

Sounds like she has already guessed it's not happening. Unless she is the stalker type I would go with doobyscoo's suggestion.

[samr1wp]

You wasted 2 months of her precious time in which she could have been with someone who actually cares. Why bother with dinner? Just chat and get it over.

yeah why waste food on her

just call and say hey its over ....

[DrYes]

Allow her to make the breaking up decision by asking specific questions that proves kinks in the relationships.

example.
ask her if you guys are compatible.

yes? ask for proof
no? there's your que to proceed with breakup.

[Mike Hoxbig]

You're the one who was staying with her after like a week right? I'd hate to say we told you so...

[Beachless]

Like my supper, we are done.

Okay bye.





She is probably expecting it to happen but most woman seem to like to setup their next relationship before getting out of the current one.

Just tell her you tried to make it work but its just not working.

[Chamberz]

Tell her you moving over seas or some sh*t.. In my experience honesty in breakups don't work and lead towards a more drastic ending with hate messages ect. Obviously i can't stereotype all woman to be this way but you know her best and if she is kiff and cool then maybe she'll understand.. I agree with bwana however, just email her this link or tell her pretty much what you have shared with us here today. Seems subtle enough. There's no easy way to break up with a girl and sugar-coating is almost impossible. Honesty and being straight on exactly how you feel and what you think is your best option i suppose. Good luck bru.