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[lexian]

I cannot believe the wonderful news I got this week. Me and my partner had a child 11 months ago. Been happy but always suspected that something was wrong. I found out this week that she had an affair and my daughter is not mine.

I feel devastated.... first its the the 20 months of lies, the financial support, the fights... we were never intimate since she fell pregnant. I do love her and my daughter but how do u move past this?

This is not the first time I've had a cheater. My ex wife cheated twice before we got divorced.

I am feeling hurt, angry, deceived, sad. But if I love them do we stay together. But can someone move past this?

[DJ...]

You get the hell out of that situation as quickly as possible. I know you have feelings for the baby and you can maintain those if she lets you, but the bottom line is that this woman is not good for you. Hell, she is awful - nothing good will come from staying with her and you're only torturing yourself by sticking around for the kid. You cannot stay just for the kid, even if the baby was yours. The fact of the matter is that you're not the baby's father though and maintaining that connection will only hurt you further down the line.

Move on...

[beans100]

I wouldn't stay and yes, one (I) could move past somethng like this....you've done it once before.
The child is another story, not her fault and I bet she's crawled into your heart. Difficult situation there...

Remember, if you decide to divorce, you can claim "damages" from her lover. I wonder where this looser is now? Does he know about the child, if so, why don't he step up and take responsiblity for his child?

[ChilliGirl]

De ja vu.....

The happened to a client of mine. He got out asap. He still sees the child at times coz as he says "I can't turn my feelings off when it comes to the little guy".

The difference was that his wife slept with one of his staff members. (he has a very successful business).

He is a much happier man now, though it took him months as he had a lot to deal with and so do you....

[lexian]

Yip he knows about the child but he has 3 kids and a wife of his own.... the problem is we are not married so I can't sue his ass. We been living together for 3 years now and engaged but not married. Would love to give him a taste of his own medicine...

[DrYes]

This woman will get her rocks off elsewhere while using you as an ATM.
Ditch the bitch.

How did you find out the kid isn't yours?

[DJ...]

Remember, if you decide to divorce, you can claim "damages" from her lover.

Wait, what now?!

[lexian]

I snooped (checked her emails).. I know it is terrible of me but I suspected something since she first fell pregnant. I needed to know the truth...

[lexian]

You can she him for breaking up a marriage

[DJ...]

the problem is we are not married so I can't sue his ass.

What would you sue him for? Why are people constantly trying to have the law sort out their issues for them? This is why we have nanny-states.

The guy slept with your girlfriend and got her preggers. She lied to you, and has since never slept with you and you two are not happy at all. That is the bottom line here. Get the fsck out now, for the sake of your sanity. You can determine later on how you see the child or if you want to at all...

[DJ...]

You can she him for breaking up a marriage

I'm no lawyer but I'm pretty sure you can't sue someone for interfering in a marriage. If that was the case, every bar in the country would have been sued by now...

[lexian]

You right but here he sits in a happy life, married and got away with everything. Didn't pay a cent. Didn't offer to pay a cent. He knew me and us. My partner, me and our child are suffering from What happened. Of course he should also fraking suffer...

[DJ...]

You right but here he sits in a happy life, married and got away with everything. Didn't pay a cent. Didn't offer to pay a cent. He knew me and us. My partner, me and our child are suffering from What happened. Of course he should also fraking suffer...

What I meant is you have no recourse. She on the other hand can force his hand legally to contribute towards the child. He is the father after all.

You need to get over the vengeance thing though - it will only serve to keep you involved longer than you need to be...

[Wikkels88]

Things like this will land my ass in jail. Good luck to you!

[STS]

I cannot believe the wonderful news I got this week. Me and my partner had a child 11 months ago. Been happy but always suspected that something was wrong. I found out this week that she had an affair and my daughter is not mine.

I feel devastated.... first its the the 20 months of lies, the financial support, the fights... we were never intimate since she fell pregnant. I do love her and my daughter but how do u move past this?

This is not the first time I've had a cheater. My ex wife cheated twice before we got divorced.

I am feeling hurt, angry, deceived, sad. But if I love them do we stay together. But can someone move past this?

i'm sorry bro. me and a lot of other guys here know how it feels. feel like crap for a bit nad hate the world, things will get better and you'll come out a better guy after all of this.

how do you plan on dealing with this?